Interested in how to be a better submissive sklaven? Want to finden domina of your own (who also owns you)? If you’re reading this article, then you probably already find the idea of being a slave appealing. Perhaps you’ve read some erotic fiction or watched sklaven videos, and you’re interested in the concept. Maybe you’re a novice to kink, or you enjoy hot, passionate BDSM sex, or you have always had a Dom and sub relationship but want to take it a step further. Whatever your experience, the tips below will help you navigate this world smoothly.
What qualities make a good submissive sklaven?
It’s seen that people who are happy in a Master/sklave (M/s) dynamic typically exhibit one or more of the following attributes. The possibility that you will make a great slave increases with the number of these personality traits you possess.
Submissive
The best subs are submissive by nature. It’s not an act they put on. It’s a core tenant of their personality and is present in many aspects of their life.
Empathetic and altruistic
Sklaven is in tune with the needs and wants of others. That is the purpose of a submissive sklave after all. They must anticipate what their domina needs and bring it or do it for them. High levels of empathy and emotional intelligence are, therefore, highly sought-after traits.
Dislike making decisions
Sklaven doesn’t enjoy making choices; they finden domina and she makes the choices. They find it stressful. If you ask them what they want for breakfast, expect to wait many minutes for an answer. They’ll study a restaurant menu for ages, unable to decide what they want to eat, asking you what you’re having.
Put others' happiness above their own
One of the reasons submissive types don’t like making decisions is that they are often thinking about your happiness above theirs. They would prefer you to tell them what you want, so they see you happy, rather than them making a poor decision which leads to you not getting what you want.
Enjoy rules and structure
When finden domina, you seek to establish certain rules and certain limits. Usually, the domina must give certain rewards to the sklaven in order to continue the interaction.
Enjoy learning
Sklaven enjoys the process of being taught new things. They tend to be quick learners and intelligent individuals. They need to pick up and remember their dominatrix rules, commands, likes, and dislikes during sklave training to serve well.
Enjoy being corrected and punished
Just as they enjoy praise, they want to be corrected and disciplined when they don’t do things well. Their desire to serve is strong, and they want to be told off for getting things wrong so they can improve.
How should a submissive sklave act?
A good sklave should:
- Always put their dominatrix first. when people finden domina they need to understand that he is dominatrices property, and their guiding objective is to serve her.
- Act with grace and humility, performing their duties efficiently with minimal fuss.
- Be mindful and work with purpose. They should not let their mind wander or get caught out by losing focus.
- Be available to do their Master’s bidding when she needs them.
- Be respectful and not talk back to their Master. Some Masters will only let their sklave speak after permission is asked for.
- Be clear on their duties and ask their Master for clarity if unsure.
When should you be a sklave for her?
Well, that all depends on what type of BDSM sklave you are. If you’re a high protocol 24/7 dynamic kind of sklave, then you are always ‘on’. You are always working or ready to work. You live and breathe your Domina and sub-dynamic, and it is everything in your life. I’d say only a teeny tiny percentage of Dom/sub relationships fall into this category. Most opt for lower protocol options or hybrid approaches, which mix domina/sklave with another form or D/s such as DDLG. These approaches are more lighthearted, playful, and fun. You have a normal life and do normal coupley things.
The D/s dynamic may not be present or apparent to anyone looking on from the outside. And then, at certain times, the M/s dynamic starts. It may be:
- Only in the bedroom. You act as his sex sklave but return to an even power structure afterward.
- Always in private. As soon as you enter the house, the Master/sklave dynamic begins.
- In private at set times. You have a codeword or agree on a set time at which the dynamic will begin and end. For example, you might decide on a ‘date’ night one evening or decide that you want to be a sklave the entire weekend.
- In private at random. If you are a naturally submissive man, you may enjoy doing things for your partner even if you haven’t specifically agreed to enter the M/s dynamic at that moment in time.
What are a sklave’s duties?
Finden domina will set rules and give you chores to carry out. The type of duties you are given will depend on what type of sklave you are, what you enjoy, what you’ve negotiated with your Master, and how deep you wish to go down the rabbit hole.
A sklave’s duties might include:
Carrying out chores
Their Master sets for them ad-hoc tasks to do during the day, either in person or remotely via text message. The sklave should carry out those tasks within an acceptable time limit and to a high standard.
Providing sexual services
A sex sklave is responsible for providing their Master with sexual pleasure. This might mean the sklave actively engaging to make their Master orgasm through manual or oral stimulation or simply be an object available to be used as a sex toy (known as ‘free use’).
Performing rituals
A ritual is a sequence of activities performed to highlight submission to a sklave’s Master. Examples of rituals might be texting their Master ‘Good morning’ every day or extravagant worship ceremonies where great lengths are taken to worship the Master by kneeling or adopting submissive poses.